
Collage by Stella Koh
The Jed Foundation
Self-Care Guide for Mental Health3 Quick Ways to Manage Anxiety
Breathe in for three counts (one side of the triangle). Hold for three counts (the other side). Breathe out for three counts (the bottom of the triangle). Repeat this sequence three or four times.
Sit on your bed or a chair with your feet on the ground. Focus on all the points where your body touches something, such as your thighs, back and butt on the chair; your feet on the ground; and your hands and fingers on the arms of the chair or your legs. Rotate your focus between all these points. Close your eyes if it helps.
Walk into the kitchen and grab an ice cube. Hold it in your hand. This forces your brain to pay attention to what’s going on in your body—your cold hand and the blood rushing to warm it—instead of your thoughts. Or target your sense of smell—grab an orange and hold it to your nose. Breathe in the scent a few times, which will force your brain to pay attention to the present moment instead of the future or past.
4 Steps to Add Joy
Let yourself feel difficult emotions; don’t ignore or gloss over them. Not only will this help you on your journey toward joy, but it will protect you from toxic positivity, which uses positive thinking to steamroll over the harder but perfectly natural emotions.
Create a short list of activities that make you feel good—e.g. connecting with friends, working on a passion project, crafting or walking in nature. Whenever you feel stress creeping up, do one of your menu items every day for a few days. Pick things that result in a small shift in your mental state, not a massive change. If you have trouble brainstorming things for your joy menu, think back to activities that made you happy in the past.
Pausing to be mindful of tiny wins can inspire you to seek out more of them. Do it again, and before long you have a series of small joyful moments that—through your lifetime—make up your happiness.
Seek out, schedule and share these moments of joy.