#MAKEITHAPPENLindsey Metselaar, host of the We Met at Acme podcast
Don't accept a same-day date! You're a busy person and you have sh*t to do! Three days in advance or bust!
Do ask different questions than the basics. You want it to feel as little like a job interview (and as much like a date) as possible.
Don't have more than two drinks! It can muddy the waters on if you actually like them or if it's the alcohol talking.
Do show up in a good mood! Your energy is contagious and your attitude sets the tone for the date!
Don't ask them what they are looking for! Most men don't know until they find it.
Do offer to pay! You should never assume that they're going to pay, even though they should.
Don't text thank you after the date! You thanked them on the date, there's no reason to thank them again. Plus, it interrupts their thought process if they would text you on their own.
What’s the biggest mistake people make when creating their dating profile?
Taking it too seriously. Your dating app profile is something you should have fun with, and it should feel lighthearted and like a breath of fresh air. Instead of writing, "I'm looking for: a life partner who I can trust" write something like "I'm looking for: an excuse to not get assigned the bunk bed on a group trip."
My favorite part of dating was being able to form connections with so many different people. I also happen to love flirting and banter, whereas some find it tedious and annoying. My least favorite part of dating was getting rejected, obviously. But I have to say rejection builds character! And evidently a podcast!
Millennials are the first generation where dating apps are more than 50% of the way people meet. Cultivating our online presence is just as important as our in real life presence, and that can be daunting. We are very oversaturated, and sometimes have too many options that it makes it harder for us to stick with one. A lot of millennials believe the grass is always greener, but I always say it's actually greener where we water it.
How has the pandemic shaped relationship dynamics?
The pandemic took years off our lives. Some of us now realize how important it is to have someone to share your life with because time is such a thief, and others felt like they were cooped up and now want to run free.
Another big pandemic takeaway was how it affected timelines. It really allowed for people to be able to have a baby first, get married second, and basically do whatever they wanted instead of sticking to a societal norm. It set the tone for more unprecedented times.
1. I recently went to Shot of Art—a paintball studio in NYC—and loved it. Such a good date night activity! Totally takes you out of your comfort zone and I love competition-based flirting.
2. Dinner at the Comedy Cellar. A comedy show is the perfect date because there’s less pressure on you both to entertain one another and you quickly find out if you have the same sense of humor.
3. Sake Decibel. One of the best speakeasy date spots in NYC. You really can't go wrong here.
4. The Marlton Hotel. I find hotels to be so romantic! They have a fireplace, and yummy bites too.
5. I just went to see "Speakeasy Magic" at the McKittrick hotel and it was amazing. A fun interactive date night for sure.
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